Self-forgiveness Begins with Others

Jack was playing center outfield during the third game of the season. He’ll be 10 this year and is starting to refine his baseball talents. It’s his favorite sport with football a close second.

In the fifth inning a pop fly was hit in his direction. He got under it, adjusted his stance, focused on the falling ball but couldn’t hold on to it and dropped it. He grabbed the ball and threw it to second base. The batter was safe.

He had a tough time letting that error go. Jack is one of the better players on the team. He commits to keeping his skills sharp with additional practices in the off season and learning by watching professional MLB players on television.
Baseball player jumps high to catch a fly ballDuring the ride home, Jack was silent, though his team won. His father asked him what’s wrong. He just kept repeating he should have caught that pop up in the fifth. He couldn’t forgive himself.

His father reminded him of a last game they played when one of Jack’s teammates, Taylor, missed a pop up, causing the team to lose the game. Jack criticized Taylor all the way home and blamed him for losing the game. “Perhaps the withheld forgiveness that Jack held towards Taylor is the same withheld forgiveness Jack feels towards himself,” his father thought. He shared that thought with his son. Then he thought about it in his own life. [Read more…]

Who Defines the Marketplace?

Remember your first day at a new company? Maybe you started the company and were so excited you can hardly sleep. There was an unstoppable ambition fueled by a desire to succeed. Do you still have that desire? What changed?

A successful life is built on a daily commitment to optimism. Optimism has two parts. The first is maintaining a hopeful outlook before a decision is made; the other is dwelling on the most positive aspects of a decision afterwards. With all the life changes we experience, voluntary and involuntary, we must be optimistic. [Read more…]

I know why I’m stuck. Here’s what I’m going to do about it.

It happened. I’m in a rut. A bit ironic, because I teach a full-day workshop called From Rut to Strut. Now I need to practice what I teach.

Let me share more about my state.  I’m busy!  Never been busier.  But I’m not growing.  As a person, I am not growing.  And as a business, I am not growing. [Read more…]

Three Questions Begin with One Answer

Starting a journey begins with a desire of wanting and believing you deserve more or you decide to no longer accept the current status of your life.  Some steps will not be easy and you will often be tested and challenged.  Growing takes a strong commitment; enough to overcome all adversity.  A determined focus will prevent distractions from your goal.  As you begin this quest, ask yourself the following three questions. [Read more…]

Start or Wait…What should I do?

The summer of 2010 I took the StrengthFinders™ test and found my top strength was Learner. This means I feel strong when I’m learning (I also have Responsibility, Intellection, Empathy and Connectedness). As a Learner, I enjoy reading business and self-development books and have found a conflict in the advice from two positions. The conflict is in the mixed message of “Taking Action” and “Delaying Gratification.”

One position is taking action and getting started.  This has always been my axiom from Og Mandino as he stresses it in Scroll IX, “I will act now” from his book the “Greatest Salesman in the World.”  Supporting this position is David J. Schwartz in his book, “The Magic of Thinking Big” as he writes in chapter 10; “The way to combat any kind of fear is action.” [Read more…]

Believing Can Come True if You are Involved in the Believing

“Believing can come true if you are involved in the believing.”

I cannot remember where I heard this quote, but it stuck with me because it reinforces the axiom that your beliefs determine your behavior and your behavior (daily habits) determines the results you receive.  If you are not receiving the desired results in life, no matter the role you are playing, change begins with determining what you are doing and not doing (behavior) and then asking yourself why.  “Why am I doing this”? or “Why am I not doing that?”

Are your beliefs a choice?  Good question.  I guess now that I’m thinking about it, I would have to say YES.  We consciously decide what is true and what we want to believe as fact.  True would mean the means (behavior) justify the desired ends (results). [Read more…]

My Boss Told Me I Should Go – oh joy!

Before opening a seminar, I’ll hang around the registration desk to meet the audience and ask “how did you hear about the event and what made you decide to attend today?”  Two important questions will help me discover a successful source of marketing and uncover the motivation of the attendee.

Sometimes my audience attendees will say, “My boss told me I should go to this.”  At that moment, they have met their boss’ goal, but chances are that anything in their life will change is low. [Read more…]

Time does not play favorites

Ever feel like some people have it better than you?  Whether you are Bill Gates, Warren Buffet or reading this post, one asset we all have is the same amount of time.

Everyone receives the same amount of time each day – 24 hours – with the choice to spend it as we wish.  Some may disagree with me, but I believe time is our most precious asset.  Once it has passed…it is gone. (At the time of writing this, I’ve been alive 17,112 days, none of them can get back or change.) We can only hope we will be given more time tomorrow, but time plays no favorites.  Below are 7 ways to better manage your time. [Read more…]

From the Greatest Book on Sales ever written.

The Greatest Salesman in the World by Og Mandino was written in 1968 and has yet to be topped.  If you have never read the book or the 10 scrolls inside, it will change your life.

Here is Og and his story and below a PDF of his 10 Scrolls. Read one Scroll a day and live them for a lifetime. ENJOY!

Click below to read the Scrolls. Here are the rules!
Og Mandino 10 Scrolls

Are you a Decision-Maker?

When you think about the attributes of a decision-maker (DM), would you consider yourself one?  When you consider yourself a decision-maker, you understand your expectations and obligations and you see the same in others – namely your prospects.  Let’s take a look at what makes up a decision-maker. [Read more…]